fraudulentfeminist:

"I need Feminism because… I want to lie and be manipulative yet still be able to blame men for my dishonesty!"

I hate this video. I hate it with all of my guts. Here are a few reasons why:

1. Role reversal:
Had there been a follow up to this “social experiment” by switching the gender of the deceptive-date, you can guarantee that the outcome would’ve been exactly the same.

But there isn’t.

There is no “part-two” to this disgustingly sexist and one-side experiment because the creators are clearly biased and have an agenda to push. Showing the same scenario but swapping the gender of the participants would result in the first experiment being deemed obsolete in terms of “proving sexism” and they obviously don’t want that to happen. Instead, they want to accuse men of hating fat women and painting them as shallow pigs. However, all they have proven is that men hate liars and that is the only logical rationale you should pull from this stupid baseless “experiment” that doesn’t even have a control group.

2. She’s a liar:
Yes, that’s right. She knew those photos were out of date but she chose to publish them for the exact purpose of deceiving others. She knew full well that her appearance had drastically changed, and because websites like tinder are almost exclusively appearance based she was being incredibly deceptive. It is called lying by omission, and it is a shitty thing to do to anyonePerfectly summed up by the man at 2:35 when he said “I really don’t appreciate people lying to me”. 

What if a man had created a Tinder profile using photos of himself when he was a hot 20 year-old, when in reality he was balding and in his his early 40s. Would young attractive women have the right to reject him for being old? He can’t help growing old, and to quote our lovely fake-fat friend: ”It’s all about, you know, what’s inside I think”

Right? Didn’t think so.

3. Don’t use false equivalences:
Gaining 100lbs is not the same as dyeing your hair colour. Don’t even try to use that sort of logic.

4. Obesity is unattractive.
Gaining such a huge amount of weight in the six months that she claimed to have done, is going to come with some serious health and lifestyle consequences. This girl didn’t gain a few pounds, she more-than doubled in size.

There is nothing positive or glamorous about being that big. I’m not talking about healthy women with healthy curves and appetite, I’m talking about a woman who has mobility impairment due to her size and who seems to consume excessive amounts of food. The health issues it causes, the non-active lifestyle it perpetuates. These men have a right not to be attracted to women of disproportionate size. The men in the video all look fit and strong and they likely lead active lifestyles. How is an obese woman, who LIED to them on the first date, going to keep up with that sort of man?

5. You’re a hypocrite
Here is a dose of reality for you if you still don’t understand what I am trying to say. Imagine you notice a fine looking man on Tinder who fits your type. He seems nice, looks fine, so you organise a date:

This is what you think he looks like according to what he chose to share with you:


You rock up to your date feeling excited, until you find out that this is what he really looks like:


Not what you expected, right? You feel a little bit disappointed now. This guy isn’t going to keep up with you on those casual runs along the beach, and his version of fine dining is almost definitely going to be a McDonalds or Pizza Hut. Unknown to you a whole bunch of cameras are secretly filming you and the footage is being edited to paint you as the shallow heartless wrench in the situation. Despite you being the one led on and lied too. Do you like those double standards now?

- fraudulentfeminist

(PS. The man pictured is Mike Waudby, before/after weightloss. He was once told to leave a bar by a group of girls who cruelly told him he was making them ‘feel sick’) 

Welp. 

So there actually is a male equivalent video. My bad. I was (obviously) surprised by the results but there were a few things I noticed straight away: 

- The attractive man was much less attractive on the attractive-scale than the woman (In my own opinion)
- That may’ve meant the women liked him for other reasons before being deceived
- Neither the man or the woman’s Tinder profile was shown, which means none of the information given out has been revealed to the viewers. For all we know, he could’ve revealed online that he was a millionaire
- He was much more friendly and engaging in person, whereas the female actor was more awkward and oblivious
- (also, apparently he is a professional pick-up artist, but I don’t know how true those allegations are)
- No follow up. All these girls agreed to go on subsequent dates but we don’t know if they would’ve ever returned his calls once they left.
- Except for the one who kissed him.
- Not many people kiss on the first date, that’s what made me think about the possibility of him being loaded.

All in all, the girls behaved beautifully. Regardless of that, I still stand by my other post. Mainly because I think it is a shitty thing to do to someone and the guys and girls both had every right to be upset about it.

"I need Feminism because… I want to lie and be manipulative yet still be able to blame men for my dishonesty!"

I hate this video. I hate it with all of my guts. Here are a few reasons why:

1. Role reversal:
Had there been a follow up to this “social experiment” by switching the gender of the deceptive-date, you can guarantee that the outcome would’ve been exactly the same.

But there isn’t.

There is no “part-two” to this disgustingly sexist and one-side experiment because the creators are clearly biased and have an agenda to push. Showing the same scenario but swapping the gender of the participants would result in the first experiment being deemed obsolete in terms of “proving sexism” and they obviously don’t want that to happen. Instead, they want to accuse men of hating fat women and painting them as shallow pigs. However, all they have proven is that men hate liars and that is the only logical rationale you should pull from this stupid baseless “experiment” that doesn’t even have a control group.

2. She’s a liar:
Yes, that’s right. She knew those photos were out of date but she chose to publish them for the exact purpose of deceiving others. She knew full well that her appearance had drastically changed, and because websites like tinder are almost exclusively appearance based she was being incredibly deceptive. It is called lying by omission, and it is a shitty thing to do to anyonePerfectly summed up by the man at 2:35 when he said “I really don’t appreciate people lying to me”. 

What if a man had created a Tinder profile using photos of himself when he was a hot 20 year-old, when in reality he was balding and in his his early 40s. Would young attractive women have the right to reject him for being old? He can’t help growing old, and to quote our lovely fake-fat friend: ”It’s all about, you know, what’s inside I think”

Right? Didn’t think so.

3. Don’t use false equivalences:
Gaining 100lbs is not the same as dyeing your hair colour. Don’t even try to use that sort of logic.

4. Obesity is unattractive.
Gaining such a huge amount of weight in the six months that she claimed to have done, is going to come with some serious health and lifestyle consequences. This girl didn’t gain a few pounds, she more-than doubled in size.

There is nothing positive or glamorous about being that big. I’m not talking about healthy women with healthy curves and appetite, I’m talking about a woman who has mobility impairment due to her size and who seems to consume excessive amounts of food. The health issues it causes, the non-active lifestyle it perpetuates. These men have a right not to be attracted to women of disproportionate size. The men in the video all look fit and strong and they likely lead active lifestyles. How is an obese woman, who LIED to them on the first date, going to keep up with that sort of man?

5. You’re a hypocrite
Here is a dose of reality for you if you still don’t understand what I am trying to say. Imagine you notice a fine looking man on Tinder who fits your type. He seems nice, looks fine, so you organise a date:

This is what you think he looks like according to what he chose to share with you:


You rock up to your date feeling excited, until you find out that this is what he really looks like:


Not what you expected, right? You feel a little bit disappointed now. This guy isn’t going to keep up with you on those casual runs along the beach, and his version of fine dining is almost definitely going to be a McDonalds or Pizza Hut. Unknown to you a whole bunch of cameras are secretly filming you and the footage is being edited to paint you as the shallow heartless wrench in the situation. Despite you being the one led on and lied too. Do you like those double standards now?

- fraudulentfeminist

(PS. The man pictured is Mike Waudby, before/after weightloss. He was once told to leave a bar by a group of girls who cruelly told him he was making them ‘feel sick’) 

*EDIT*


So there actually is a male equivalent video. My bad. I was (obviously) surprised by the results but there were a few things I noticed straight away: 



- The attractive man was much less attractive on the attractive-scale than the woman (In my own opinion)

- That may’ve meant the women liked him for other reasons before being deceived

- Neither the man or the woman’s Tinder profile was shown, which means none of the information given out has been revealed to the viewers. For all we know, he could’ve revealed online that he was a millionaire

- He was much more friendly and engaging in person, whereas the female actor was more awkward and oblivious

- (also, apparently he is a professional pick-up artist, but I don’t know how true those allegations are)

- No follow up. All these girls agreed to go on subsequent dates but we don’t know if they would’ve ever returned his calls once they left.

- Except for the one who kissed him.

- Not many people kiss on the first date, that’s what made me think about the possibility of him being loaded.



All in all, the girls behaved beautifully. Regardless of that, I still stand by my other post. Mainly because I think it is a shitty thing to do to someone and the guys and girls both had every right to be upset about it.

I Don’t Need Feminism because:

Believing that men and women have equal value doesn’t automatically make you a feminist… It makes you A DECENT HUMAN BEING!

fraudulentfeminst

imageWHY IS THIS NOT ACCEPTABLE (only typical “white” British people in a show based in Britain where the majority of people are fair-skinned Brits)



IF THIS IS ACCEPTABLE? (only Indian people in a show based in India where the vast majority of people are Indian)



AND THIS IS ACCEPTABLE? (Only korean people in a show based in Korea where the vast majority of people are Korean)

…Why is multiculturalism only required in predominantly “white” countries?

- My biological brother gets mistaken to be from the Middle East.
- My biological sister gets mistaken to be from Columbia.
- My other biological sister is correctly assumed to be Indian.
- Me…

… Apparently I’m not light enough to be white, but I am also not dark enough to be a “real” woman of colour. My whole identity is constantly questioned and undermined by people say I am not “Indian” enough, because I don’t live up to their standards of what an Indian woman should like like, and therefore I can’t identify as Indian.

Is 50% enough to call myself an Indian? To call myself a woman of colour despite not always looking like it? It sure is.

I hate people sometime.

fraudulentfeminist:

"I need feminism because… People still act like being accused of rape is worse than being raped"
 Firstly, rape is possibly one of the most violent and traumatizing acts of assault, second only to murder. Please do not think that I am undermining the true extent of how terrifying and violating it is. However, I honestly believe that being accused and convicted of committing a crime so heinous, while being innocent, comes with repercussions that are far more devastating then being a victim of rape. Being raped can traumatize someone for the rest of their life. Some people can move on but most will never recover. People life in fear, they get anxiety, depression, suicidal tendencies, and some even develop anorexia as a means of coping. Rape doesn’t affect you for a moment; it affects you for the rest of your life. However, there is hope out there. There are countless support groups that help you deal with the trauma, and to ease the pain. There is the chance of closure for what happened to you, through prosecution. Your family and friends will support and love you through your ordeal and road to recovery. You may not recover completely, but you can move forward with your life.
However, when you are accused and prosecuted for being a rapist you also live with lifelong trauma. Firstly, spending time in prison, in isolation, for years on end. Missing out on your dreams, your ambitions, and your goals. Not to mention your inmates are likely to have their own justice system… Have you ever heard of the term “don’t drop the soap”? Once you survive your time in prison, and the trauma that comes with it, you get out to find that your partner and kids have left you and have filed a restraining order against you. If you were single at the time, you will be single and alone for the rest of your life. Your family and friends and everyone you care about will reject you. They will be ashamed and embarrassed by you. Wherever you go parents will be holding their kids close because they have a rapist alert app on their phone, and you have a permanent record. Finding a job to support yourself will be 1000x harder because employers do background checks, and no one is going to want to hire you. Society will look down on you and spit on your face as you spend the rest of your life waiting for the nightmare to end… All for something you didn’t do. 
I know I exaggerated both scenarios, but please, tell me how being unapologetic to those who are falsely accused is a positive attribute of “feminism”?  
- fraudulentfeminist

fraudulentfeminist:

"I need feminism because… People still act like being accused of rape is worse than being raped"

Firstly, rape is possibly one of the most violent and traumatizing acts of assault, second only to murder. Please do not think that I am undermining the true extent of how terrifying and violating it is. However, I honestly believe that being accused and convicted of committing a crime so heinous, while being innocent, comes with repercussions that are far more devastating then being a victim of rape.

Being raped can traumatize someone for the rest of their life. Some people can move on but most will never recover. People life in fear, they get anxiety, depression, suicidal tendencies, and some even develop anorexia as a means of coping. Rape doesn’t affect you for a moment; it affects you for the rest of your life. However, there is hope out there. There are countless support groups that help you deal with the trauma, and to ease the pain. There is the chance of closure for what happened to you, through prosecution. Your family and friends will support and love you through your ordeal and road to recovery. You may not recover completely, but you can move forward with your life.

However, when you are accused and prosecuted for being a rapist you also live with lifelong trauma. Firstly, spending time in prison, in isolation, for years on end. Missing out on your dreams, your ambitions, and your goals. Not to mention your inmates are likely to have their own justice system… Have you ever heard of the term “don’t drop the soap”? Once you survive your time in prison, and the trauma that comes with it, you get out to find that your partner and kids have left you and have filed a restraining order against you. If you were single at the time, you will be single and alone for the rest of your life. Your family and friends and everyone you care about will reject you. They will be ashamed and embarrassed by you. Wherever you go parents will be holding their kids close because they have a rapist alert app on their phone, and you have a permanent record. Finding a job to support yourself will be 1000x harder because employers do background checks, and no one is going to want to hire you. Society will look down on you and spit on your face as you spend the rest of your life waiting for the nightmare to end… All for something you didn’t do. 

I know I exaggerated both scenarios, but please, tell me how being unapologetic to those who are falsely accused is a positive attribute of “feminism”?  

- fraudulentfeminist

"I need feminism because… no one debates whether men can "have it all""No one debates whether men can have it all because it is overwhelmingly presumed that a man has one role in life and that is to spend the rest of his life working to the bone to support the family. What use is a man unless he goes to work? That is what our society teaches. Men don’t have it all because from the moment they are born they are reared to be put to work. Society views their worth on how much money they bring in at the end of the day. That’s it. Their suitability as a potential partner is heavily based on what job they have and how able they are to support a future family…… And when it comes to family, more often than not, a man will give up his precious time, that could’ve otherwise been spent with his wife and children, to work long hours to provide an income. Meanwhile, the wife is on maternity leave, or staying home with the kids, or working flexible hours to suit daycare, or working full time with a nanny for the kids. There is so much support for women with children out there. It is socially acceptable for them to stay at home and rear the children since it is an age old stereotype, and our culture has shifted (for the better) to make it more acceptable and respectable for a woman to go back to work after having kids. Men have been left out of this change in acceptability regarding family roles, yet they are still being blamed and accused of ‘having it all’ when the only option they really have is to get back to work? (Unless they want to face ridicule, of course). No, men don’t have it all because they are pressured into the only thing society thinks they are good for, earning money. God, as a woman I cannot imagine the pressure they must grow up with and deal with. I mean, I face daily pressures set by expectations of how women should behave, or what women should do. But I don’t live under a rock, I know for a fact that men struggle with other issues that don’t affect me. Just because they don’t affect me, doesn’t mean they don’t exist, and I am not going to spend my life supporting a movement that is hell bent on removing any sort male support system because it believes women have it worse.Feminist quotes like the ones above destroy what little credibility feminism has left. It shows just how one sided all their concerns are. They only ever think about how a particular issue affects women, but they could care less if that same issue affected men in an alternative way. Feminists caring about men? I don’t think so.- fraudulentfeminist

"I need feminism because… no one debates whether men can "have it all""

No one debates whether men can have it all because it is overwhelmingly presumed that a man has one role in life and that is to spend the rest of his life working to the bone to support the family. What use is a man unless he goes to work? That is what our society teaches. Men don’t have it all because from the moment they are born they are reared to be put to work. Society views their worth on how much money they bring in at the end of the day. That’s it. Their suitability as a potential partner is heavily based on what job they have and how able they are to support a future family…

… And when it comes to family, more often than not, a man will give up his precious time, that could’ve otherwise been spent with his wife and children, to work long hours to provide an income. Meanwhile, the wife is on maternity leave, or staying home with the kids, or working flexible hours to suit daycare, or working full time with a nanny for the kids. There is so much support for women with children out there. It is socially acceptable for them to stay at home and rear the children since it is an age old stereotype, and our culture has shifted (for the better) to make it more acceptable and respectable for a woman to go back to work after having kids. 

Men have been left out of this change in acceptability regarding family roles, yet they are still being blamed and accused of ‘having it all’ when the only option they really have is to get back to work? (Unless they want to face ridicule, of course). No, men don’t have it all because they are pressured into the only thing society thinks they are good for, earning money.

God, as a woman I cannot imagine the pressure they must grow up with and deal with. I mean, I face daily pressures set by expectations of how women should behave, or what women should do. But I don’t live under a rock, I know for a fact that men struggle with other issues that don’t affect me. Just because they don’t affect me, doesn’t mean they don’t exist, and I am not going to spend my life supporting a movement that is hell bent on removing any sort male support system because it believes women have it worse.

Feminist quotes like the ones above destroy what little credibility feminism has left. It shows just how one sided all their concerns are. They only ever think about how a particular issue affects women, but they could care less if that same issue affected men in an alternative way. Feminists caring about men? I don’t think so.

- fraudulentfeminist

“I need feminism because… being loud and forceful doesn’t make me a bitch”
Um… it sort of does. Does anyone know how language works anymore? It’s a way of communicating with words that can be clearly interpreted others. Those words have meanings, and sometimes those meanings can adopt other meanings or evolve to mean something completely different, which is why you must also take into consideration the situation and context.
Now, just because a word itself can be used in a derogatory way, does not make the word itself derogatory. Take for example the word ‘gay’. ‘Gay’ is most commonly communicated and interpreted as a word to describe someone’s sexual orientation. (‘Homosexual’ works as well, but who has time for pronouncing 5 syllables?) However, ‘gay’ can also be used in a derogatory way or old-fashioned sense, in which case the context that the word is being used in determines the meaning of the word itself. When people call you a ‘bitch’ when you act loudly and forcefully, they do not mean you are literally a female dog, or that you are some sort of “pimp’s bitch” (aka hoe), because that is not the context they are using the word in. Being loud and forceful are two very unpleasant traits, and if the word ‘bitch’ is commonly used and interpreted within context to describe an unpleasant person (which it is), then that is one word that suits as an adjective. Alternative words that suit are: obnoxious, arrogant, annoying, overbearing, tiring, unpleasant etc.  At the end of the day, regardless of what word they use, people are communicating to each other that they don’t like you for your loud and forceful behaviour. 
- fraudulentfeminist

“I need feminism because… being loud and forceful doesn’t make me a bitch


Um… it sort of does. 

Does anyone know how language works anymore? It’s a way of communicating with words that can be clearly interpreted others. Those words have meanings, and sometimes those meanings can adopt other meanings or evolve to mean something completely different, which is why you must also take into consideration the situation and context.

Now, just because a word itself can be used in a derogatory way, does not make the word itself derogatory. Take for example the word ‘gay’. ‘Gay’ is most commonly communicated and interpreted as a word to describe someone’s sexual orientation. (‘Homosexual’ works as well, but who has time for pronouncing 5 syllables?) However, ‘gay’ can also be used in a derogatory way or old-fashioned sense, in which case the context that the word is being used in determines the meaning of the word itself. 

When people call you a ‘bitch’ when you act loudly and forcefully, they do not mean you are literally a female dog, or that you are some sort of “pimp’s bitch” (aka hoe), because that is not the context they are using the word in. 

Being loud and forceful are two very unpleasant traits, and if the word ‘bitch’ is commonly used and interpreted within context to describe an unpleasant person (which it is), then that is one word that suits as an adjective. Alternative words that suit are: obnoxious, arrogant, annoying, overbearing, tiring, unpleasant etc.  

At the end of the day, regardless of what word they use, people are communicating to each other that they don’t like you for your loud and forceful behaviour. 

- fraudulentfeminist