imageWHY IS THIS NOT ACCEPTABLE (only typical “white” British people in a show based in Britain where the majority of people are fair-skinned Brits)



IF THIS IS ACCEPTABLE? (only Indian people in a show based in India where the vast majority of people are Indian)



AND THIS IS ACCEPTABLE? (Only korean people in a show based in Korea where the vast majority of people are Korean)

…Why is multiculturalism only required in predominantly “white” countries?

- My biological brother gets mistaken to be from the Middle East.
- My biological sister gets mistaken to be from Columbia.
- My other biological sister is correctly assumed to be Indian.
- Me…

… Apparently I’m not light enough to be white, but I am also not dark enough to be a “real” woman of colour. My whole identity is constantly questioned and undermined by people say I am not “Indian” enough, because I don’t live up to their standards of what an Indian woman should like like, and therefore I can’t identify as Indian.

Is 50% enough to call myself an Indian? To call myself a woman of colour despite not always looking like it? It sure is.

I hate people sometime.

fraudulentfeminist:

"I need feminism because… People still act like being accused of rape is worse than being raped"
 Firstly, rape is possibly one of the most violent and traumatizing acts of assault, second only to murder. Please do not think that I am undermining the true extent of how terrifying and violating it is. However, I honestly believe that being accused and convicted of committing a crime so heinous, while being innocent, comes with repercussions that are far more devastating then being a victim of rape. Being raped can traumatize someone for the rest of their life. Some people can move on but most will never recover. People life in fear, they get anxiety, depression, suicidal tendencies, and some even develop anorexia as a means of coping. Rape doesn’t affect you for a moment; it affects you for the rest of your life. However, there is hope out there. There are countless support groups that help you deal with the trauma, and to ease the pain. There is the chance of closure for what happened to you, through prosecution. Your family and friends will support and love you through your ordeal and road to recovery. You may not recover completely, but you can move forward with your life.
However, when you are accused and prosecuted for being a rapist you also live with lifelong trauma. Firstly, spending time in prison, in isolation, for years on end. Missing out on your dreams, your ambitions, and your goals. Not to mention your inmates are likely to have their own justice system… Have you ever heard of the term “don’t drop the soap”? Once you survive your time in prison, and the trauma that comes with it, you get out to find that your partner and kids have left you and have filed a restraining order against you. If you were single at the time, you will be single and alone for the rest of your life. Your family and friends and everyone you care about will reject you. They will be ashamed and embarrassed by you. Wherever you go parents will be holding their kids close because they have a rapist alert app on their phone, and you have a permanent record. Finding a job to support yourself will be 1000x harder because employers do background checks, and no one is going to want to hire you. Society will look down on you and spit on your face as you spend the rest of your life waiting for the nightmare to end… All for something you didn’t do. 
I know I exaggerated both scenarios, but please, tell me how being unapologetic to those who are falsely accused is a positive attribute of “feminism”?  
- fraudulentfeminist

fraudulentfeminist:

"I need feminism because… People still act like being accused of rape is worse than being raped"

Firstly, rape is possibly one of the most violent and traumatizing acts of assault, second only to murder. Please do not think that I am undermining the true extent of how terrifying and violating it is. However, I honestly believe that being accused and convicted of committing a crime so heinous, while being innocent, comes with repercussions that are far more devastating then being a victim of rape.

Being raped can traumatize someone for the rest of their life. Some people can move on but most will never recover. People life in fear, they get anxiety, depression, suicidal tendencies, and some even develop anorexia as a means of coping. Rape doesn’t affect you for a moment; it affects you for the rest of your life. However, there is hope out there. There are countless support groups that help you deal with the trauma, and to ease the pain. There is the chance of closure for what happened to you, through prosecution. Your family and friends will support and love you through your ordeal and road to recovery. You may not recover completely, but you can move forward with your life.

However, when you are accused and prosecuted for being a rapist you also live with lifelong trauma. Firstly, spending time in prison, in isolation, for years on end. Missing out on your dreams, your ambitions, and your goals. Not to mention your inmates are likely to have their own justice system… Have you ever heard of the term “don’t drop the soap”? Once you survive your time in prison, and the trauma that comes with it, you get out to find that your partner and kids have left you and have filed a restraining order against you. If you were single at the time, you will be single and alone for the rest of your life. Your family and friends and everyone you care about will reject you. They will be ashamed and embarrassed by you. Wherever you go parents will be holding their kids close because they have a rapist alert app on their phone, and you have a permanent record. Finding a job to support yourself will be 1000x harder because employers do background checks, and no one is going to want to hire you. Society will look down on you and spit on your face as you spend the rest of your life waiting for the nightmare to end… All for something you didn’t do. 

I know I exaggerated both scenarios, but please, tell me how being unapologetic to those who are falsely accused is a positive attribute of “feminism”?  

- fraudulentfeminist

"I need feminism because… no one debates whether men can "have it all""No one debates whether men can have it all because it is overwhelmingly presumed that a man has one role in life and that is to spend the rest of his life working to the bone to support the family. What use is a man unless he goes to work? That is what our society teaches. Men don’t have it all because from the moment they are born they are reared to be put to work. Society views their worth on how much money they bring in at the end of the day. That’s it. Their suitability as a potential partner is heavily based on what job they have and how able they are to support a future family…… And when it comes to family, more often than not, a man will give up his precious time, that could’ve otherwise been spent with his wife and children, to work long hours to provide an income. Meanwhile, the wife is on maternity leave, or staying home with the kids, or working flexible hours to suit daycare, or working full time with a nanny for the kids. There is so much support for women with children out there. It is socially acceptable for them to stay at home and rear the children since it is an age old stereotype, and our culture has shifted (for the better) to make it more acceptable and respectable for a woman to go back to work after having kids. Men have been left out of this change in acceptability regarding family roles, yet they are still being blamed and accused of ‘having it all’ when the only option they really have is to get back to work? (Unless they want to face ridicule, of course). No, men don’t have it all because they are pressured into the only thing society thinks they are good for, earning money. God, as a woman I cannot imagine the pressure they must grow up with and deal with. I mean, I face daily pressures set by expectations of how women should behave, or what women should do. But I don’t live under a rock, I know for a fact that men struggle with other issues that don’t affect me. Just because they don’t affect me, doesn’t mean they don’t exist, and I am not going to spend my life supporting a movement that is hell bent on removing any sort male support system because it believes women have it worse.Feminist quotes like the ones above destroy what little credibility feminism has left. It shows just how one sided all their concerns are. They only ever think about how a particular issue affects women, but they could care less if that same issue affected men in an alternative way. Feminists caring about men? I don’t think so.- fraudulentfeminist

"I need feminism because… no one debates whether men can "have it all""

No one debates whether men can have it all because it is overwhelmingly presumed that a man has one role in life and that is to spend the rest of his life working to the bone to support the family. What use is a man unless he goes to work? That is what our society teaches. Men don’t have it all because from the moment they are born they are reared to be put to work. Society views their worth on how much money they bring in at the end of the day. That’s it. Their suitability as a potential partner is heavily based on what job they have and how able they are to support a future family…

… And when it comes to family, more often than not, a man will give up his precious time, that could’ve otherwise been spent with his wife and children, to work long hours to provide an income. Meanwhile, the wife is on maternity leave, or staying home with the kids, or working flexible hours to suit daycare, or working full time with a nanny for the kids. There is so much support for women with children out there. It is socially acceptable for them to stay at home and rear the children since it is an age old stereotype, and our culture has shifted (for the better) to make it more acceptable and respectable for a woman to go back to work after having kids. 

Men have been left out of this change in acceptability regarding family roles, yet they are still being blamed and accused of ‘having it all’ when the only option they really have is to get back to work? (Unless they want to face ridicule, of course). No, men don’t have it all because they are pressured into the only thing society thinks they are good for, earning money.

God, as a woman I cannot imagine the pressure they must grow up with and deal with. I mean, I face daily pressures set by expectations of how women should behave, or what women should do. But I don’t live under a rock, I know for a fact that men struggle with other issues that don’t affect me. Just because they don’t affect me, doesn’t mean they don’t exist, and I am not going to spend my life supporting a movement that is hell bent on removing any sort male support system because it believes women have it worse.

Feminist quotes like the ones above destroy what little credibility feminism has left. It shows just how one sided all their concerns are. They only ever think about how a particular issue affects women, but they could care less if that same issue affected men in an alternative way. Feminists caring about men? I don’t think so.

- fraudulentfeminist

“I need feminism because… being loud and forceful doesn’t make me a bitch”
Um… it sort of does. Does anyone know how language works anymore? It’s a way of communicating with words that can be clearly interpreted others. Those words have meanings, and sometimes those meanings can adopt other meanings or evolve to mean something completely different, which is why you must also take into consideration the situation and context.
Now, just because a word itself can be used in a derogatory way, does not make the word itself derogatory. Take for example the word ‘gay’. ‘Gay’ is most commonly communicated and interpreted as a word to describe someone’s sexual orientation. (‘Homosexual’ works as well, but who has time for pronouncing 5 syllables?) However, ‘gay’ can also be used in a derogatory way or old-fashioned sense, in which case the context that the word is being used in determines the meaning of the word itself. When people call you a ‘bitch’ when you act loudly and forcefully, they do not mean you are literally a female dog, or that you are some sort of “pimp’s bitch” (aka hoe), because that is not the context they are using the word in. Being loud and forceful are two very unpleasant traits, and if the word ‘bitch’ is commonly used and interpreted within context to describe an unpleasant person (which it is), then that is one word that suits as an adjective. Alternative words that suit are: obnoxious, arrogant, annoying, overbearing, tiring, unpleasant etc.  At the end of the day, regardless of what word they use, people are communicating to each other that they don’t like you for your loud and forceful behaviour. 
- fraudulentfeminist

“I need feminism because… being loud and forceful doesn’t make me a bitch


Um… it sort of does. 

Does anyone know how language works anymore? It’s a way of communicating with words that can be clearly interpreted others. Those words have meanings, and sometimes those meanings can adopt other meanings or evolve to mean something completely different, which is why you must also take into consideration the situation and context.

Now, just because a word itself can be used in a derogatory way, does not make the word itself derogatory. Take for example the word ‘gay’. ‘Gay’ is most commonly communicated and interpreted as a word to describe someone’s sexual orientation. (‘Homosexual’ works as well, but who has time for pronouncing 5 syllables?) However, ‘gay’ can also be used in a derogatory way or old-fashioned sense, in which case the context that the word is being used in determines the meaning of the word itself. 

When people call you a ‘bitch’ when you act loudly and forcefully, they do not mean you are literally a female dog, or that you are some sort of “pimp’s bitch” (aka hoe), because that is not the context they are using the word in. 

Being loud and forceful are two very unpleasant traits, and if the word ‘bitch’ is commonly used and interpreted within context to describe an unpleasant person (which it is), then that is one word that suits as an adjective. Alternative words that suit are: obnoxious, arrogant, annoying, overbearing, tiring, unpleasant etc.  

At the end of the day, regardless of what word they use, people are communicating to each other that they don’t like you for your loud and forceful behaviour. 

- fraudulentfeminist

"I need feminism because… There are more MPs called Dave than female MPs"Yeah. Fuck you, Dave. How dare you study politics and take an interest in leadership roles. What a selfish bastard you are, for pursuing a career that supports your country and keeps it from descending into anarchy. Fuck you, Dave, because it is entirely your fault that women aren’t as inclined to pursue leadership roles like being a Member of Parliament. Women want more representation in politics, but none of them actually want to take on the responsibility of representation themselves; they want someone else to do it for them. "Too many men," they say. "There are just too many Daves. This isn’t fair." Newsflash, Dave, you are a man. You are solely responsible for women avoiding politics. There are too many of you. Whatever you do, Dave, it means shit. No one is going to look up to you. Who gives a damn about your leadership skills, your integrity or honesty? You won’t ever be an inspiration or motivation for women pursuing politics, simply because you don’t have a vagina between your legs. As we all know, women only respect and admire other women.  Holy shit, Dave, you didn’t think about that, did you? 

"I need feminism because… There are more MPs called Dave than female MPs"

Yeah. Fuck you, Dave. 

How dare you study politics and take an interest in leadership roles. What a selfish bastard you are, for pursuing a career that supports your country and keeps it from descending into anarchy. Fuck you, Dave, because it is entirely your fault that women aren’t as inclined to pursue leadership roles like being a Member of Parliament.

Women want more representation in politics, but none of them actually want to take on the responsibility of representation themselves; they want someone else to do it for them. 

"Too many men," they say. "There are just too many Daves. This isn’t fair."

Newsflash, Dave, you are a man. You are solely responsible for women avoiding politics. There are too many of you. Whatever you do, Dave, it means shit. No one is going to look up to you. Who gives a damn about your leadership skills, your integrity or honesty? You won’t ever be an inspiration or motivation for women pursuing politics, simply because you don’t have a vagina between your legs. As we all know, women only respect and admire other women.  

Holy shit, Dave, you didn’t think about that, did you? 

Anonymous asked:

Your wage gap infograph shows male nurses earning $5000 pa more than female ones.

In response to this post.

I did that intentionally. 

To make it easier to explain, look at both the male engineers. Both are labelled engineers, yet one is earning 4k more than the other. This could be because one is mechanical, and the other electrical… Or maybe they simply have different roles in the company? Maybe one has been in that particular company longer, and thus has bigger benefits? Maybe one has more qualifications? There are a number of reasons why both engineers get paid differently, even if they are of the same gender. 

Now look at both nurses. Male and female. The male is earning 5k more than the female. People can be so quick to presume that he is being paid more simply because he is male, while in the case of the engineers there was a perfectly logical and reasonable explanation for the obvious wage difference.

I even had a female engineer earning more than the lower paid male engineer. Could we presume that she is being paid more simply because she is female, or do we pass it off as a statistical anomaly because it skews a particular wage-gap agenda? OR would we look at the previously mentioned factors (different roles, responsibilities, qualifications etc.) that could very easily explain this wage difference? So many jobs. So many wages. So many people.

I hope this sort of explained my intentions a little further.

- fraudulentfeminist

"I need feminism because… No, I don’t want to give you another blow job."
Firstly, if this was a loving/mutual relationship, you would want to please your partner. Likewise, your partner would want to please you, and there would most likely be an agreement in place between you both about boundaries and expectations, like most loving/mutual relationships normally have.Which leads me to conclude that you are actively participating in the hook-up culture, where sexual experiences are often based on personal sexual satisfaction using the help of a willing partner. So don’t be surprised when either you or your temporary partner demands more than they give. Look at this realistically. If you are going to go to bed with someone to use them to fulfil your sexual desires, don’t be surprised when they also expect you to fulfil their own sexual desires too.  How will feminism, a political movement that promotes laws to give women equal rights, going to amend this problem? - New legislation requiring that for every minute a partner receives a blowjob, the bestowing partner is entitled to equal blowjob privileges, and any breach of this is punishable by law? - By promoting social constructs that convince men they have to be entirely selfless in bed so you can continue to use them for your own pleasure?- Convincing women that all their partners, no matter how disposable, need to bend down to them on hand and foot?None of these are appropriate, none of these promote equality, none of these will help the fact that you are making a conscious decision to consensually have sex with selfish people who you have no long-term investment in. If people want to consensually sleep around, that is entirely their prerogative, and the law should never meddle in such private situations. Just remember that if you put selfishness into your relationships, you are going to receive selfishness back. Don’t turn this into a political statement that implies all men are selfish in bed. No self-respecting person actually thinks women should be submissive in bed. Don’t even try to use female submissiveness as a counter argument. A true partner is someone who is going to put your needs above their own, and hopefully you show the same courtesy in return. That is what making love is. That is what most people in loving/mutual relationships do. If you have a partner who is constantly expecting favours without ever feeling the need to please you in return, dump their ass. Do not wait for them to change, because when they are at their most vulnerable that is when their true colours show. If those true colours are tainted with selfishness, you need to leave them.Feminism isn’t going to fix the problems you create when you consciously choose to have consensual sex and end up with a bad experience.- Fraudulentfeminist(P.S. I would like to add that none of the points I made are valid if translated into a situation that involved rape. Rape is inexcusable and I would never ever imply that she was responsible if the situation that took place was non-consensual. Judging by the cheeky grin, it seems like this woman is speaking up about men who expect more in bed…)

"I need feminism because… No, I don’t want to give you another blow job."


Firstly, if this was a loving/mutual relationship, you would want to please your partner. Likewise, your partner would want to please you, and there would most likely be an agreement in place between you both about boundaries and expectations, like most loving/mutual relationships normally have.

Which leads me to conclude that you are actively participating in the hook-up culture, where sexual experiences are often based on personal sexual satisfaction using the help of a willing partner. So don’t be surprised when either you or your temporary partner demands more than they give. Look at this realistically. If you are going to go to bed with someone to use them to fulfil your sexual desires, don’t be surprised when they also expect you to fulfil their own sexual desires too.  

How will feminism, a political movement that promotes laws to give women equal rights, going to amend this problem? 
- New legislation requiring that for every minute a partner receives a blowjob, the bestowing partner is entitled to equal blowjob privileges, and any breach of this is punishable by law? 
- By promoting social constructs that convince men they have to be entirely selfless in bed so you can continue to use them for your own pleasure?
- Convincing women that all their partners, no matter how disposable, need to bend down to them on hand and foot?

None of these are appropriate, none of these promote equality, none of these will help the fact that you are making a conscious decision to consensually have sex with selfish people who you have no long-term investment in. If people want to consensually sleep around, that is entirely their prerogative, and the law should never meddle in such private situations. Just remember that if you put selfishness into your relationships, you are going to receive selfishness back. Don’t turn this into a political statement that implies all men are selfish in bed. 

No self-respecting person actually thinks women should be submissive in bed. Don’t even try to use female submissiveness as a counter argument. A true partner is someone who is going to put your needs above their own, and hopefully you show the same courtesy in return. That is what making love is. That is what most people in loving/mutual relationships do. If you have a partner who is constantly expecting favours without ever feeling the need to please you in return, dump their ass. Do not wait for them to change, because when they are at their most vulnerable that is when their true colours show. If those true colours are tainted with selfishness, you need to leave them.

Feminism isn’t going to fix the problems you create when you consciously choose to have consensual sex and end up with a bad experience.

- Fraudulentfeminist

(P.S. I would like to add that none of the points I made are valid if translated into a situation that involved rape. Rape is inexcusable and I would never ever imply that she was responsible if the situation that took place was non-consensual. Judging by the cheeky grin, it seems like this woman is speaking up about men who expect more in bed…)

"I need feminism because… My choice of attire is not invitation for you to stare."C’mon, really? Don’t act like you aren’t guilty of the very same thing.When you see those dapper looking gentlemen sitting in backstreet cafés, with their cold pressed coffee in one hand while simultaneously writing poetry with the other. Everything about them is perfect. From their antique leather case to the tiny infinity tattoo on their finger. Don’t pretend like you don’t swoon as they periodically fix their Ray Ban glasses into place every time it slides to the tip of their nose, causing their tweed plaited bracelets to fall back down to their pale forearms. Don’t act like you aren’t currently imagining what it would be like to have this fine specimen of a man start a conversation with you, and all of a sudden that very same evening he is making slow, sweet love to you in his wood cabin on the edge of the woods. Before you know it, your lady parts are getting a little wet before your coffee even arrives. You can’t help your bodies natural response to stimulants. But of course, you couldn’t stop staring because this guy was clearly dressing to impress, right?
Again, don’t act like you don’t get turned on by men with hot bodies while they are simply trying to enjoy their day at the beach without being the target of your lustful stare. Their chiselled chests, all smooth and golden brown. Don’t pretend that you’ve never looked at a man like that and fantasised about him literally sweeping you off your feet with his strong muscular arms, and suddenly you are in a private, secluded beach where he is slowly kissing every inch of your body as you lie in the soft sand. Before you know it, your lady parts are getting a little wet and you aren’t even in the ocean yet. But of course, he should have worn a swim vest because his bare chest was basically an invitation to stare, right?Tom Hiddleston, Benedict Cumberbatch, Misha Collins. Don’t act like you don’t google image these guys obsessively and memorise every single detail of their bodies. Don’t pretend like you haven’t used their public images to help yourself get off when you need a little private lady-time. But of course, they shouldn’t have been actors who are constantly in the spotlight if they didn’t want people to notice them and lust over them, right?Unfortunately, everyone has the right to stare. At anything.  You cannot police somebodies right to look at whatever is in their field of vision. Especially when you abuse this very same right, for the exact same reasons. Don’t be a hypocrite. - fraudulentfeminist

"I need feminism because… My choice of attire is not invitation for you to stare."

C’mon, really? Don’t act like you aren’t guilty of the very same thing.

When you see those dapper looking gentlemen sitting in backstreet cafés, with their cold pressed coffee in one hand while simultaneously writing poetry with the other. Everything about them is perfect. From their antique leather case to the tiny infinity tattoo on their finger. Don’t pretend like you don’t swoon as they periodically fix their Ray Ban glasses into place every time it slides to the tip of their nose, causing their tweed plaited bracelets to fall back down to their pale forearms. Don’t act like you aren’t currently imagining what it would be like to have this fine specimen of a man start a conversation with you, and all of a sudden that very same evening he is making slow, sweet love to you in his wood cabin on the edge of the woods. Before you know it, your lady parts are getting a little wet before your coffee even arrives. You can’t help your bodies natural response to stimulants. But of course, you couldn’t stop staring because this guy was clearly dressing to impress, right?


Again, don’t act like you don’t get turned on by men with hot bodies while they are simply trying to enjoy their day at the beach without being the target of your lustful stare. Their chiselled chests, all smooth and golden brown. Don’t pretend that you’ve never looked at a man like that and fantasised about him literally sweeping you off your feet with his strong muscular arms, and suddenly you are in a private, secluded beach where he is slowly kissing every inch of your body as you lie in the soft sand. Before you know it, your lady parts are getting a little wet and you aren’t even in the ocean yet. But of course, he should have worn a swim vest because his bare chest was basically an invitation to stare, right?

Tom Hiddleston, Benedict Cumberbatch, Misha Collins. Don’t act like you don’t google image these guys obsessively and memorise every single detail of their bodies. Don’t pretend like you haven’t used their public images to help yourself get off when you need a little private lady-time. But of course, they shouldn’t have been actors who are constantly in the spotlight if they didn’t want people to notice them and lust over them, right?

Unfortunately, everyone has the right to stare. At anything.  You cannot police somebodies right to look at whatever is in their field of vision. Especially when you abuse this very same right, for the exact same reasons. Don’t be a hypocrite. 

- fraudulentfeminist