"I need Feminism because… I want to lie and be manipulative yet still be able to blame men for my dishonesty!"
I hate this video. I hate it with all of my guts. Here are a few reasons why:
1. Role reversal:
Had there been a follow up to this “social experiment” by switching the gender of the deceptive-date, you can guarantee that the outcome would’ve been exactly the same.
But there isn’t.
There is no “part-two” to this disgustingly sexist and one-side experiment because the creators are clearly biased and have an agenda to push. Showing the same scenario but swapping the gender of the participants would result in the first experiment being deemed obsolete in terms of “proving sexism” and they obviously don’t want that to happen. Instead, they want to accuse men of hating fat women and painting them as shallow pigs. However, all they have proven is that men hate liars and that is the only logical rationale you should pull from this stupid baseless “experiment” that doesn’t even have a control group.
2. She’s a liar:
Yes, that’s right. She knew those photos were out of date but she chose to publish them for the exact purpose of deceiving others. She knew full well that her appearance had drastically changed, and because websites like tinder are almost exclusively appearance based she was being incredibly deceptive. It is called lying by omission, and it is a shitty thing to do to anyone. Perfectly summed up by the man at 2:35 when he said “I really don’t appreciate people lying to me”.
What if a man had created a Tinder profile using photos of himself when he was a hot 20 year-old, when in reality he was balding and in his his early 40s. Would young attractive women have the right to reject him for being old? He can’t help growing old, and to quote our lovely fake-fat friend: ”It’s all about, you know, what’s inside I think”
Right? Didn’t think so.
3. Don’t use false equivalences:
Gaining 100lbs is not the same as dyeing your hair colour. Don’t even try to use that sort of logic.
4. Obesity is unattractive.
Gaining such a huge amount of weight in the six months that she claimed to have done, is going to come with some serious health and lifestyle consequences. This girl didn’t gain a few pounds, she more-than doubled in size.
There is nothing positive or glamorous about being that big. I’m not talking about healthy women with healthy curves and appetite, I’m talking about a woman who has mobility impairment due to her size and who seems to consume excessive amounts of food. The health issues it causes, the non-active lifestyle it perpetuates. These men have a right not to be attracted to women of disproportionate size. The men in the video all look fit and strong and they likely lead active lifestyles. How is an obese woman, who LIED to them on the first date, going to keep up with that sort of man?
5. You’re a hypocrite
Here is a dose of reality for you if you still don’t understand what I am trying to say. Imagine you notice a fine looking man on Tinder who fits your type. He seems nice, looks fine, so you organise a date:
This is what you think he looks like according to what he chose to share with you:
You rock up to your date feeling excited, until you find out that this is what he really looks like:
Not what you expected, right? You feel a little bit disappointed now. This guy isn’t going to keep up with you on those casual runs along the beach, and his version of fine dining is almost definitely going to be a McDonalds or Pizza Hut. Unknown to you a whole bunch of cameras are secretly filming you and the footage is being edited to paint you as the shallow heartless wrench in the situation. Despite you being the one led on and lied too. Do you like those double standards now?
(PS. The man pictured is Mike Waudby, before/after weightloss. He was once told to leave a bar by a group of girls who cruelly told him he was making them ‘feel sick’)
So there actually is a male equivalent video. My bad. I was (obviously) surprised by the results but there were a few things I noticed straight away:
- The attractive man was much less attractive on the attractive-scale than the woman (In my own opinion)
- That may’ve meant the women liked him for other reasons before being deceived
- Neither the man or the woman’s Tinder profile was shown, which means none of the information given out has been revealed to the viewers. For all we know, he could’ve revealed online that he was a millionaire
- He was much more friendly and engaging in person, whereas the female actor was more awkward and oblivious
- (also, apparently he is a professional pick-up artist, but I don’t know how true those allegations are)
- No follow up. All these girls agreed to go on subsequent dates but we don’t know if they would’ve ever returned his calls once they left.
- Except for the one who kissed him.
- Not many people kiss on the first date, that’s what made me think about the possibility of him being loaded.
All in all, the girls behaved beautifully. Regardless of that, I still stand by my other post. Mainly because I think it is a shitty thing to do to someone and the guys and girls both had every right to be upset about it.