"I need feminism… so that I can stand up to the next guy who jokingly tells me to go make him a sandwich in the kitchen."
I’ve just come home after meeting up with two of my male friends. At one point we were just bantering around when this happened:
Harry: “Fuck it, just get back in the kitchen where you belong”
Me: “Only if you mow the lawns when you get home from your 9 hour day at work, before buying me that dress I want and taking me out to dinner and paying for it”
Harry: Ah! Fuck you.
John: Ooooooh… burn, Harry! BURN!!
Did you see what I did there? Instead of internalizing a stereotype that was made as a joke against me, instead of feeling oppressed and belittled, instead of playing victim to everything that may have potentially offended me… I rose above it. Instead of playing dead, I played back. He used a stereotype against me and I had every right and privilege as a woman to use a stereotype against him. Guess what? It was funny. We laughed about it because we knew that they were stereotypes.
Being told to go back to the kitchen was an actual problem around, say the 1950s. It wasn’t a stereotype, it wasn’t a joke, it was a common held belief that women actually belonged in the kitchen. Women who did break the mold back then were often criticised and held with contempt by men and other women. They were ostracised by family and friends because they didn’t fit societies gender roles and were thus an embarrassment.
Fast forward to the 21st century and If you tried to belittle a woman for doing whatever she believe in, you will be pounced on and ripped to shreds. People will hold YOU with contempt for having such narrow minded and misogynistic views. Society doesn’t put up with that shit anymore.
So when you try to promote feminism by using antiquated stereotypes, you are failing to recognise the advancement society has made regarding gender roles… for both men AND women. You are also highlighting how many feminist followers have an inability to use logic or reasoning.